Comment to 'Fear of Failure'
Comment to Fear of Failure
  • Hi Lucy.

    I think most, if not all of us, feel the same way at some point or another. It's part of being creative - whether we're writers, artists, actors, musicians, dancers... everyone who digs deep inside themselves for something truthful or vulnerable or difficult or precious or painful and then, rather than hiding it away, displays it to the world and asks if it has value (not necessarily monetary).

    It's a terribly exposing thing to do. And rejection always hurts. But I think we have to teach ourselves not to take it personally (harder to do than to say!). And, when all is said and done, although it's wonderful when someone else likes our offerings, the only people we should really be trying so hard to please are perhaps our worst critics of all... ourselves. 😄 

    Write what you like, when you like, as often as you like... just to please yourself. Read lots, always remembering that even those writers whose work you love have had their self-doubts and bleak moments, not to mention rejections, and try not to comapre yourself to them. Those moments when you want to throw it all away always pass. And there'll be another story to tell tomorrow.

    And if not, there's usually a sympathetic shoulder or two here! 😊 

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    • Really well said, Jon. And Stephen, don't forget about the online business. More money is being made there than Trad. Even if it is not about the money, if your book is half decent, and your blurb and ads are good, people will read your book. However, if it is good and sales in numbers follow, you have the world start to open up for you. It may be that agents come to your door. Queries to agents is a depressing exercise for the best writers. Their judgement is irrelevant online. Your structures may not be perfect and other things may not be, but it is the story that counts and as long as it hums along and is easy to read you will get sales. Take control of your own destiny. Sure, send it to agents, but keep writing. When you have had a gut full of rejections, without any reasons of substance, see it for what it is and do your own thing. Don't forget, 12 or so of these experts knocked back Harry Potter. Do not let their rejections hurt you.

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      • Thank you Jon! Wise words which I will certainly take on board. 😊
        I think this thread will be one I will keep coming back to every time things look bleak!

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