Some great advice here from the troops in the trenches.
Rick’s ‘shuffling’ (despite his remark about my mixers – I suspect he takes his whiskey straight), reminded me of the feeling of learning to plot/plan. You shuffle many concepts, and then you find yourself with a ‘murder card’ in this hand, a ‘strong-female-character card’ in the other hand, and a ‘POV-misbelief card’ in… wait – time for Blu-Tack -- and a bunch of cards stuck to your bedroom wall.
It helps to reduce all the (most relevant) advice into your own checklists: Chapter planning checklist, editing checklist, character tics checklist, and so on – whatever stops the little blighters running around your head. Then, when you need to be you writer self, tell your planner self you’ll go through the checklists with them later. Fortunately, we are no longer writing in stone so we don’t have to get it all right first chisel.
And, the fact that you care enough for it to bother you is probably a good sign.